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Nici Schueler

Hi, I am the founder of SSEW - here I share my snippets of my expat journey. Enjoy

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HUMANITY OR BUST

HUMANITY OR BUST

Is humanity withering away? At the last SSEW birthday event I had to buy a lot of candy for the party bags. I drove out to God only knows where - took me forever - to go to this store at the base of an HDB I'd researched which had wholesale candy. I had only 1 day to pack the bags, it was hot and I was stressed...

The store was great and I went around and carried my bags and bags of candy to the counter only to be told “cash only”. I looked desperately at the man, sweat pouring from my brow and said PLEEEASE PLEEEEEEEASE can I transfer the money to you when I get home? He looked at me quizzically not really understanding the concept of ‘bank transfer’. I weakly explained that I could use the internet to pay him if he gave me his account details. I was not hopeful he would agree. I mean… who was he to believe in this weird concept he seemed not to fully comprehend. Also… I was acutely aware this guy did NOT have to trust me. I was asking to just walk away from his store, with his stock, without paying, with only my word to rely on based on a foreign concept.

Bless him…BLESS HIM! He said ok and wrote down his bank details on a scrap of paper. I left him my hp number and of COURSE as soon as I came home I transferred the money immediately and gave a 50% tip. I was just SO heartened by the fact that people could still just go with a bit of goodwill and trust.

Yesterday I went to collect a plant from a lady who was selling online. The plant was $36 and in the east which isn’t my ‘hood’. I drove up to the lady’s condo lobby where she was waiting with the plant. I leant over to my bag and she watched as I rummaged around for my wallet which just wasn’t there. I frantically and profusely apologised and she waited as I phoned my helper who told me I’d left it on the kitchen bench.

I told the lady I was time poor and could she just please please give me the plant and I would transfer the money when I returned home.

“I think you should just come back when you have the money” was her response. I told her it was definitely not my intention to do a runner with her plant. I told her I didn’t have time to drive home and back again and could she just have a bit of faith in humanity and roll with some trust.

“I don’t think so” I told her if this was the case I would have to leave it.

At this point I actually became quite sad. Not for the plant I would miss out on as there will be other plants…I was sad for what our society has become if a lady with a $36 plant can’t bring herself to trust that another lady was going to pay her. I know that $36 to her may have meant paying a bill or feeding her family and I’m not trivialising the amount nor her circumstance as I of course knew not of her struggles or situation.

But.

The candy man to me had a lot more to lose. I was pitching a concept of payment he didn’t understand. I was also asking to walk away with a great deal of his stock, so I would have understood if he had said no. But he didn’t. He trusted in a complete stranger. Kudos to you Mr. Candy Man. You are winning in my book. Sorry for you plant lady that you have had life experience which has left you with no seeds of trust left in your garden.

I wonder in life on average which wins out. Humanity or distrust?

May humanity continue to grow and blossom with trust as its fertiliser. 🌿
Amen.

#votehumanity

Nici Schueler

Hi, I am the founder of SSEW - here I share my snippets of my expat journey. Enjoy

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